Friday, March 11, 2011
Flights of fancy and ordinary presents... Excerpt from December 2010 Newsletter
In my movie - the one where I am the superstar - I start to think about how I love January 1st. I jump suddenly past the next 2 weeks. Reveling in the anticipation of the freshness of the New year, I also realize that just about now my head feels like it's going to explode. I am all together a little twitchy: Worried about closing up the books for the year and the coming of taxes; Cookies for Friday; A trip to the city on Saturday; Five presents left to buy; And really nasty stuff like the lice outbreak at Charlie's school. I notice that since I am uncomfortable I take the nearest exit to Downtown Somewhere Else.
I want to not only look past my own distress but also ignore the distress of those around me passing it off as not related to me. Generally, that's no good. It's only a patch for a hole that inevitably begins to leak as soon as I turn away. Anyway, he's just a dude doing the best he can, right? Probably. I smile and watch him shove on.
With Charlie asleep in my lap I continued to watch. There was an elderly woman sitting in a wheelchair who would need to be helped down the ramp. One of the Southwest employees helped her arrange her luggage on the metal flaps where she rested her puffy feet. She yelped as the luggage went down on top of her feet instead of between them. The attendant didn’t hear her and the woman was making faces, jerking her legs and scowling nastily. This went on for a few moments before the necessary adjustment was made. I watched and saw my own easily roused irritation play on the woman's face. I thought, I do that. I winced. I've been that attendant, too. I think she feels bad and just then I am glad I am not her.
So, what I wish for all of you this season is to be present - to stay awake no matter what's going on around you and realize that your experience is shared. We are not so special after all. Our lives are ordinary, much the same as our neighbors and it delights me to remember this. All at once I unique and absolutely nothing special - never separate.
Like the guy with the bad mustache I, too, wonder if my deodorant is working. If it's not, I think Well, today I'm Stinky Girl. It's okay, though - yesterday it was you. :)
May all of you and your beautiful families have a spectacularly imperfect holiday season!
With love,
Chantill
Words on Wisdom - Excerpt from November 2010 Newsletter
Before we get started, I'd like to say a sincere thanks to everyone who contributed to our first Stretch To Recovery pledge drive! The difference your donations make is more than a drop in the bucket for this young non-profit program. We hope you will continue to help us by spreading the word. (You can still donate - every dollar helps us offer Pilates to someone with cancer. Thank you! stretchtorecovery.org.) See below for more information about the program.
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Now, to begin, I should first offer a brief forewarning: I almost got absolutely carried away with the quotes at the top of the newsletter this month. A bit like the persistent, nagging autumn-time fly that's been hanging around the studio, an unwieldy number of exhortations have been orbiting my attempts to get started this month. "Resistance is futile" comes unfortunately to mind, but it pretty much says what I now know. You will have to bear with me. Hopefully we'll come out on the other side with something coherent or at least mildly motivating. You never know. We'll hope for the best.
Here they are:
From a friend of mine who got it from who knows where:
"A worry is a prayer for something you don't want to happen."
From The Diamond Cutter - Geshe Michael Roach:
"- There's no word in Tibetan for "guilt." The closest thing is "intelligent regret that decides to do things differently.""
From Stanford University Commencement 2005 - Steve Jobs:
"For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something...almost everything -- all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure -- these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose."
Put together they make me think of the ubiquitous - often ambiguous and sometimes lightly frustrating - advice of it's the journey that counts not the destination or as the Buddha said, "It's better to travel well than arrive."
No doubt you've read those words here in some form or other if not exactly. Honestly, until recently I haven't had a truly deep understanding of what they mean. I've always given them the "Yes. Right, of course. I know" shrug off. However, my ruminations as of late lead me to believe that wisdom really does necessitate age - at least the accumulation of experiences - hence I seem to be making progress.
Today, in the studio, I noticed every face that came in. I noticed the words the teachers spoke, how they cued and how they touched or guided their students. I noticed the satisfaction as students left and my feelings of gratitude that they made it to practice today. I spoke to a student about how she felt her abs for days and days after her last session and to another about how she uses her shovel. I noticed that the big picture does not exist without all the small pixels that give it color, form, texture and depth. I noticed that no matter what my goals are, being where I was today, saying the things I said, listening, guiding, questioning even feeling disappointed and unsure was perfect.
I feel as if I've finally passed some threshold -- cosmic, astrological or otherwise -- in my life that makes me really know the value of right now. Finally the "there" at the end does not seem as important. Like my son Charlie says "Kablam!" it just happened. But as with injury, rarely does it just happen. More accurately, injury or in this case lasting revelations come over the course of many years. So, older and wiser? Yes, I think so. Sometimes.
I have been a fool often enough in 34 years. Do you know anything about that? Growing up I mostly believed my parents' forewarnings and that they knew what they were talking about - at least I told myself and them I did. That is until I knew better. Because how can you avoid that feeling of knowing? In retrospect, the feeling of the unavoidable mistake - the necessary evil. And besides, being told I didn't know often felt like a challenge.
I've said things I wished I hadn't, lost sleep over ridiculous things of one color or another, suffered nightmares, slammed doors, thrown things, lost friendships, tried to find love in the wrong places, been mean on purpose, woken up moody, lied, jumped into things too quickly, said things before thinking them through and much, much more.
When my parents told me "slow down, don't be in such a hurry, believe in yourself, family is important, follow your heart" and "it's not about where you get but how you get there" cursory impact was the most they could hope for. It turns out they weren't just vomiting seemingly useless parental garbage. Holy cow! They actually knew what they were talking about! (Perhaps there is hope that Charlie will have this revelation, too?)
When we talk about the importance of practice, devoted and meaningful practice, this is what it really means. Our attention to the practicing itself rather than the goal we are trying to reach is the heart of practice. In yoga last night, our teacher Anne talked about relishing the practice. Wouldn't that be nice? Can we relish practicing a teaser or roll-up knowing we may never get there? If so, then we practice for the sake of practice, which becomes motivation in and of itself. This leads to dedication and devotion no matter what other forces are at work.
Can we rest comfortably in the presence of past mistakes while deeply valuing just who and what we are capable of in moment without expectation of what's to come? Isn't this what they mean when they say enjoy the journey?
Perhaps in a very naive way I think I've grown to appreciate my multitude of missteps and ultimately incurable imperfections. After all, there is no escaping them. It's kind of like watching a B movie, one you can't help but love. And it all feels really good. It feels real. It makes me want nothing more but to continue to do it.
In this month of Thanksgiving, I hope that you are able to notice from time to time the tiny pixels, the small invaluable moments that are the larger picture: a deep breathe taken while in a challenging exercise; the realization that your shoulders feel more connected to your back; the feeling of energy as you leave the studio; the voice of your teacher as he or she gives you encouragement or insight. To these things let us offer thanks and gratitude and see if we can begin to feel what it means to enjoy the journey fully.
May you enjoy every moment of it, especially when it's not what or how you would prefer it to be. :)
With gratitude,
Chantill
Change... Excerpt from September 2010 Newsletter
--Ralph Waldo Emerson
Well, here it is -- best said by an American icon. Change brings a balance of things. Knowing this doesn't make it any easier. When we are in the midst of change, especially the first painful bits of shaking things loose, we'd rather be back in the stuck spot where things are at least familiar. Yet once we are past that awful and uncomfortable moment when we first recognize some change is necessary, we move into a new flow, a new rhythm. Once we are there we can't imagine being anywhere else. Change can be funny like that.
I bring this up now because as many of us know, I've been experiencing my own bit of turbulence around change. Our baby, the studio, is moving beyond toddler-hood and it's time to treat it as such -- to let loose and see what it will do. A big step. We've invited several new teachers -- Colleen McCarty and student teacher Tiffany DiMartin -- into the Collective with excitement. And October brings with it a new class format, new pricing and a new schedule.
Certainly, we are no strangers to change. I think Pilates Collective may have undergone so many changes that for some of you it seems we've lived multiple lives together. It's true. For whatever reason, we have chosen this path and it has lead us around more curves than we would have thought we could endure.
So, we take another step forward to lose something and gain something. We hope that you will see your way through all of this to our truest efforts to improve the studio for both students and teachers. It takes both, to make our community what it is and to build a foundation that will last. Of course, there will be bumps in the road. Some changes will feel difficult and some that we thought might be difficult, will be easy. The truth is, you never know how it's going to unfold.
As we make these transitions, please feel free to give us your feedback. We want the studio to be welcoming, safe and supportive to all of you, so your thoughts are invaluable.
And on top of all of this, the season dares to change too. I hope you are all thriving and living the lives you want to be living. We'll see you soon.
With gratitude,
Chantill
Pilates Is a Journey - Excerpt from August 2010 Newsletter
We have been working quite a lot on figuring out what draws people to Pilates? How do we articulate the value of the method? How do we help people understand it and want to do it? Sure it's about fitness, health, strength, well-being, but it's also about making a choice to dedicate yourself to something for the long run. How do we portray all of that?
As most of us know, what we thought Pilates was when we first started is not what it ends up being -- even after our first class we start to have a hint of this. This is one of the most enduring qualities of Pilates. It is always changing, revealing more possibilities.
As teachers we've been doing it for so long it has evolved from and into many things. For some of us ease and efficiency are at it's heart. For some of us it's about mindfulness and observation. For some of us it's about injury prevention and a life with less pain and greater strength. I think I can say with confidence we love Pilates because it's malleable and adaptable to our individual needs. It can be anything we want it to be as long as we are dedicated to it.
But why do you do it? Why would you tell someone else do it? What's the value for anyone?
It's just exercise, right? Sometimes we do it, sometimes we don't. We do it because the "They" are telling us that balance and core work is important or that we must get an hour of exercise a day (or whatever "They" are saying). Maybe we come to it because we want to look a little better in our jeans; we want to like what we see in the reflection of the shop windows; we are in pain; or maybe we want a better golf or tennis game. Every reason is a valid and powerful reason. So, if you know why you started, then why do you continue?
Pilates, for me now, couldn't be further from what I first imagined it was (on the floor, pumping my arms wildly because a very imposing ballet teacher said I must and some German guy back in the 50's said we should). Today, (due in part to a more mature sensibility -- thank goodness for everyone -- and much more experience) I see it is a never-ending process of knowing my body better -- understanding, deepening and unfolding. With knowing comes the skill of observation and awareness. With awareness comes the ability to build strength beyond my immediate goals, pain or challenges. That is why I practice -- I see there is always somewhere new to go and it is never boring!
Whatever the answer is for you we are grateful that you've made a decision to practice. If you wish your practice was more consistent that's why we are here -- to help guide and support you. If you want to start practicing, we are here for that too.
We hope that you have found something in Pilates that will be a part of your life for a long time. We hope that your enthusiasm helps to inspire others to investigate the great potential Pilates holds.
We are grateful for this opportunity to offer something valuable into the world and have so many wonderful people to share it with. Keep practicing or start practicing. We'll see you soon.
Chantill
On The Wagon
It's been more than a year since I've posted directly to our studio blog, but am excited about making it a constant and ongoing forum for our teachers, students and community.
My sense is, however, that blogs work because people blog - so it will be a collective :) effort for us to make this a success. So, blog, blog, blog away!
I will now be posting our monthly newsletter article to the blog so you can read it, send it, comment on it and write your own responses and blurbs - any thoughts or challenges or inspirations you want to share.
We will also now have a link to our blog(s) - as there are two of them technically - on our website so you can access them easily. In attempts to generate interest and conversation I am also working on linking us to other blogs to hear what Pilates enthusiasts and teachers are saying around the country and the world.
Here are a few interesting things on my mind right now related to Pilates:
- We just found out that we were voted Honorable Mention for Best Pilates Studio in Sonoma County in the Bohemian's Best Of for the second year in a row.
I think this is an amazing feat given the plethora of really good Pilates studios in Sonoma county and how long many of them have been around.
We couldn't be more proud to be thought of so highly! Thank you! We'll keep you posted about the official announcement and any parties or specials associated :)
- One of my students, Patty Holden, a nutritionist by education and inspiration, was telling me yesterday that studies have been done that show asymetries in the body can start during gestation. Fascinating stuff. Research is now being done and published regarding diet and blood-type (you've heard of the Eat Right for Your Blood Type) and diet and genetics.
Here are some links - http://www.drpeterjdadamo.com/wiki/wiki.pl/Welcome and
http://www.genotypediet.com/index.shtml
- We are just about to launch the demo site for our Audio Home Practice program and are working hard to get it to you. Keep your eyes and ears posted for PilatesHomePractice.com/Audio. This program will eventually lead to video classes as well! Exciting!!!
Monday, January 11, 2010
First Fridays Mentoring Series Begins Friday, Feb. 5th!
Beyond The Technique – Business Skills, Savvy, & Strategies For a Thriving Pilates Business
If you are a teacher, you don't want to miss this 6 month program (to be taken individually or as a series). It's a wonderful opportunity for teachers to deepen their teaching skills and to learn the skills to be better in business.
In these economic times, we cannot afford to not know how to be savvy business owners. Our teaching and our ability to maintain a business presence are often not linked or talked about. In this series you will have a chance to dive in to the challenges of running a business and being a better teacher.
Here's more:
There is so much more to being a Pilates teacher than receiving a certificate of completion, designing a logo, and choosing the perfect space. And there is so much more to continuing education than learning more technique. You run a business as a Pilates teacher, whether you are an independent contractor, employee, manager, or studio owner. And the ultimate goal of any business is getting and keeping customers. This series focuses on “how” to get and keep your clients, not “what” you teach them.
Join veteran teacher, Carol Appel, for a 6-part mentoring series on critical business aspects of teaching that are often excluded from teacher training programs.
Over the course of this dynamic process – held on the “First Friday” of each month in
How do you differentiate yourself in an industry where Pilates is now a commodity? What motivates a customer to learn from you, instead of another teacher? What is your personal mission, and your vision for your business future? What are your underlying non-negotiable values that stamp how you operate in the business world? How do you get clients? Are you uncomfortable asking for business? Can you close a sale? What indicators do you track to know how well your business is doing?
In this multi-level group and personal journey, you will learn to:
- Work on your business, not just in your business.
- Embrace your power of selling.
- Promote yourself, generate leads, and convert a prospect into a raving fan.
- Skillfully introduce prospective clients to your services.
- Integrate a client, retain that client and get referrals from your client.
- Fortify your business to withstand economic cycles.
- Nurture true client ability, not just dependency - which translates into true client loyalty.
Each workshop covers 3 elements:
- A business conversation with activities and homework to personalize your outcomes.
- A coaching conversation on the specifics of ensuring client success.
- A collective examination of an exercise. The group will detail an exercise; including the ways to teach it, the benefits, related exercises, how to prepare the client for this move, and what advanced moves this is a preparation for.
Email us for a detailed outline of the course at info@pilatescollective.com
For registration:
Cost: Single Workshop - $100
Full Mentoring Series - $540 3 or more in a group receive extra 5% off series price
Dates: Fridays - February 5, March 5, April 2, May 7, June 4, July 9
Time: 4 – 7 pm
Location:
For more questions or to sign up: call 707-778-3552
Go to www.pilatespluspetaluma.com and click on appointments to register online.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Pilates for Everyone: New Resources and Insights
Since we took on the role of training teachers in 2007/2008 we have seen the need for continued resources for the Pilates community and more importantly our community.
There are a lot of people practicing and promoting Pilates across the globe, but for us what matters most is the impact we make close to home. As professionals in this ever growing field, it's crucial that we stay connected and involved in the greater community of the world aligning ourselves with cutting edge research and innovation. But as studio owners in Sebastopol, Ca it's even more important that we continue to provide exceptional and caring service to you who have embarked on this journey.
What's NEW:
Pilates for Professionals Newsletter - To connect you with other teachers, trainings, workshops and insights right in your local community.
Let us do some of the leg work to keep you involved and connected with what the larger community is doing. Linked to our new Resource for Pilates Professionals Page on the Pilates Collective website, you'll find articles, podcasts and more to help you improve your work.
The newsletter will include opportunities for community service and philanthropy as well. The San Francisco based United Pilates Collective is actively pursuing this and other ways to promote Pilates excellence and support for professionals. See the link in our favorites section to see what they are up to.
Kristen and I have had the pleasure of being involved with them from the beginning and I am chairing the Scholarship and Philanthropy Committee. See the associated Blog link above.
Find out more about this and other community-based opportunities through the Pilates for Professionals Newsletter.
Sign up now by emailing us at info@pilatescollective.com. Re: Professional Newsletter.
NEW for our students - As more and more students expand and explore their Pilates practice we've begun to expand our Self Directed page to help students continue their success outside of sessions and classes
Visit our Self Directed Page on the Pilates Collective website and see that we've added.
Audio files for you to download of generic or specific self directed routines to come soon!!! Hear our voices in your head whenever you need to.
Twitter and Facebook: Join us on these two wildly ubiquitous social networking sites and help us stay connected. It's the perfect place to give feedback, suggestions, inspirations and more. Twitter.com re: SebbiePilates. Facebook.com become a Pilates Collective Fan.
Also, review us on Yelp! Yelp.com. But be sure to have reviewed other businesses as well otherwise Yelp confiscates the review. AHHH...and no one gets to see it. Thank you to those who have done this before.